We travel a lot, we argue some, but we are getting better. This post is about how to travel with your husband (or partner) without wanting to kill him. Yes, this post is firmly tongue in cheek!
Ideally go somewhere you both want to go. This can have its challenges, for example, Mr. W wants to go to India, but I don’t really fancy it, whilst I would love to go to New England and Mr. W says “I’m not really into trees”. Go figure…
Compromise on where you want to go and what you want to do, and remember you are not joined at the hip – something I will go into later.
Know what you are both good at. Mr. W is happy to drive abroad and I would rather not, whilst I’m a conscientious planner and don’t want to miss a thing. Consequently, he always drives and I always plan and book.
I like to search online for the best deals, that includes discounts and coupons, yes I like luxury but it’s always nice to save a little if you can. Mr. W would rather have his eyes burnt out with a hot poker.
On any holiday you do have to compromise and plan activities you want to do together but there is nothing wrong with going off for a morning or afternoon and doing your own thing.
Mr. W loves windsurfing, I can’t think of anything worse to do, even watching him bores me, so if he wants to go off and do this on a holiday good luck to him. I am quite happy to spend time shopping or having a pedicure in a spa somewhere. The thought of being on a windswept beach being beaten by the sand and surrounded by 18-year-olds weighing 7 stone in thong bikinis doesn’t delight me.
Remember – you don’t have to spend every second of the day together.
We both love sightseeing and cram loads into our holidays, but we’ve found through the years that it’s also important to plan in some down time too. This is especially important if you are travelling across time zones and may get jet lagged. To do this we plan in an afternoon by the pool or beach about 2-3 days into the holiday as this can help rejuvenate you.
We also plan in times to catch up with work online as being travel bloggers mean we are constantly working. I find it more stressful to get home and have all the work to catch up on, so doing a little on holiday helps me focus. Many people work remotely these days so if you are one, decide if you are going to leave your work at home or catch up with things on the go, just don’t allow it to take over your holiday.
If you do have an argument, make sure you makeup quickly and do that simple thing – apologise. Something Mr. W is crap at, as well as empathy. There is nothing worse than a big argument to ruin a holiday you may have spent months saving for.
Sometimes it can be hard breaking out of an argument, so why now try something like saying loudly “1, 2, 3 sausages”! We tried this a couple of times and as silly as it sounds it actually works as you break the arguing cycle and it makes you laugh. Laughing together makes you forget what you were arguing about. Laughter is so under-rated in stress relief.
One good thing about arguing is the making up, and I will leave that to your imagination. It will probably have you feeling very relaxed the next day!
So these are some tips on how to travel with your husband without wanting to kill him on holiday. Do you have any tips? How do you keep sane on holiday with your husband or partner?